Thursday, January 19, 2017

Misconceptions about Parenting

We've all been there right? We are totally convinced that something is possible, or quite impossible, only to attempt it and realize it is the complete opposite. This happened to me again today. I've been wanting to give Emmett reading lessons (lasting about 15-20 minutes daily) but I've been overwhelmed with the idea that I have to find that chunk of time, uninterrupted, during the day to spend with just Emmett. Even 5 minutes uninterrupted seems like an amazing feat to be attempted. As with most things in life, it is usually best just to jump in and try it. So I did. 

Today we did our 6th reading lesson. Right before beginning I was trying to think of what to do with Adalyn, should I let her watch a show? Give her the IPad? Get her to play in her room? Hudson is napping and Benton is at school so they are easy. But instead I just started the lesson. Adalyn pulled up a chair and watched the whole time. She even practiced saying some of the words right along with Emmett. WHAT? I've seriously been waiting months to start these lessons because I thought it would be too hard to do with other kids around. In fact the first lesson we did Benton sat at the table reading books and Hudson sat on the floor playing. So it IS possible even with all 4 kids right there. My preconception was obviously a misconception. 

This got me thinking about how many other times as a parent I've let my preconceptions prevent me from attempting something. And unfortunately I've thought of quiet a few. Namely "My kids can't clean the bathroom (picturing cleaning it as I would)" only to realize that they CAN take a baby wipe and clean the counter and toilet seat. "They can't do a load of laundry start to finish" but they CAN put the clothes in the basket and take it to the washing machine. Next they CAN learn how to put the clothes and soap in and start the machine. With help they CAN switch the loads and pull them out. And in another year or two they CAN fold. 

I used to think that taking all four of my kids swimming by myself sounded like torture of the worst kind. Mainly because I would drive myself crazy looking for each of them since NONE of them can swim by themselves yet. But I desperately want them to be confident in the water, and finding time each week when Dallin can go with us is honestly not an option, so I tried it. The three older kids wear life vests and swim all over the shallow (up to 4 feet) pool. We last about an hour, and after just a few times going the kids are so comfortable in the water. Next I want to teach them how to swim. 

If we start thinking about it, I'm sure we can all think of some preconceptions that have prevented us from attempting something. Sure, our preconceptions are there for a reason. We take our current set of experiences and form what we think is an honest possibility of what might happen, and we might be right. But we might be wrong. So the questions is how much do you really want it? I REALLY want to teach Emmett to read. I REALLY want need my children to help out around the house. I REALLY want my kids to be comfortable and confident in the water. So for me, these things are worth attempting. And if I try and fail miserably, well then I'll do it differently next time. Or there won't be a next time. And that's okay.

You never know what you can do until you try. So I'm going to TRY. Next attempt, exercising with my kids around... stay tuned for that disastrous update.

Monday, June 20, 2016

Head Above Water

Hi Guys! I'm here, really I am. It has been months since I've posted, but it is my goal to catch up. We have loved having a family of six, which is still surprising to me sometimes. Six! But it is been a little crazy at times. Some things just had to go, and some just went whether we liked it or not. Blogging was one of those things that I just couldn't get around to doing. However I print these into books, and I absolutely love having them so it is important to me to keep updated. I will be starting now to post pictures and memories starting back in January, while at the same time posting pictures about right now. That way I can write while things are fresh in my mind, and I'll do my best with the things from earlier this year. 

Sorry Hudson. If you look at this when you're older and think that I didn't take as many pictures of you, or post as long of posts about your month birthdays, well you are probably right. But I was just spending time with you, instead of posting about you. We have REALLY enjoyed having you around, you are seriously the best baby. And please know, we are just doing the best we can. 

Now, about having 4 kids. Oh, My. It has been an adventure so far. I've done what I could to survive and somehow I'm finally feeling like my head is above water. I think about the quote from Jim Gaffigan often, "Do you want to know what's it's like to have a fourth? Just imagine you're drowning, and then someone hands you a baby." SO ACCURATE. 

But we are not drowning anymore, things are looking great. Benton is out of school, and we are all home for summer. It has been wonderful having him home, even though it has only been a few days. We have lots of fun things planned and we are ready to play. This is going to be the best summer yet, with my 4 beautiful children to enjoy it with.

Monday, March 28, 2016

Magic Tricks

Dallin loved learning magic tricks when he was a kid. While we were there we pulled out his trunk of tricks and he was able to impress the kids with his amazing skills. It was super cute to watch the kids watch him with rapt attention. They loved it and wanted to know how he did it!

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Benton especially loved the floating tissue. These kids have the best Dad!

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Sunday, March 27, 2016

Easter

We spent Easter at Dallin's Parents house. It was fun to be there with his family for the holiday. We started the morning with a little Easter egg hunt (Thanks Walmart for being open late so we could run and grab candy and eggs the night before when we actually remembered). The kids loved going on the hunt for eggs, and they loved the candy inside. Who doesn't?

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What? We didn't have cute Easter baskets?! Nope. And the kids didn't care. I'm thinking next year we'll do the same thing...

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Hudson was sidelined for this activity, poor guy. Next year little man. Next year.

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After church we had a delicious dinner with family, it was perfect.

Saturday, March 26, 2016

Museum of Ancient Life

On our last day in Salt Lake City we found a fun little park to spend some time at before heading south to our next destination. It was a bit chilly but the kids loved having this place to themselves and spent most of the time on the see-saws. Adalyn was a bit upset that she didn't have a buddy to go with. Don't worry Addy, give Hudson a year or two and he'll be ready to run, jump, and see-saw with you! This was one solution we came up with that worked for about 2 minutes. Hey, that's enough time right?

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Adalyn did love "holding" Hudson down the slide. Luckily once was enough and she was content to play on her own after that.

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Our next stop was the Museum of Ancient Life at Thanksgiving Point. We've never been there before and the kids really enjoyed it. They of course loved the interactive stations the most. We learned lots of fun facts about dinosaurs and enjoyed playing too.

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This shark was impressive. I don't think I would ever go swimming again if these were still around. Can you image? Hello Nightmare!

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The last stop before leaving the museum is this dig pit, I'm thinking we should have one in our backyard. Complete with dinosaur bones and all. What do you say Dallin? You up for that?

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We loved staying in this yellow house and loved our little stay in Salt Lake City. Good bye yellow house, and hello to Grandma and Grandpa's!

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Speechless

Nothing needs to be said about this. Because really. I mean this is amazing.


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Hogle Zoo

Buuuurrrrrrrr. It was a chilly morning at the zoo, but we really enjoyed it! We may have had to get hot chocolate (noticing a theme here? Hot chocolate everywhere) to convince the kids to stay a little longer, but it worked! Both Dallin and I really liked the layout of this zoo. It was easy to walk around, to know where you were, and most importantly to see the animals!

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It started snowing a little bit while we were there, and the kids thought that was pretty great.