Baby Number 2 Advice
As you all know our home will soon (hopefully soon) be welcoming baby #2. We are all pretty excited about it and are looking forward to all the changes that it will bring to our family. They won't all be easy, but this life wasn't meant to be easy. One of the things that I have tried to be aware of is how it will affect Benton. He has been the only kid in the house for a long time and is pretty used to all the attention he gets. We have tried to do a few things to prepare him but not a lot. For example we tried to separate him from his crib with enough time so he doesn't feel like the baby came home and took over everything that was his.
I have had a few people give me some good tips that I think we will try. The first one I read online somewhere. It said that when the older sibling comes to visit you and the new baby in the hospital, you need to put the baby down and give them attention. I thought that was a good idea, they see the new baby in your arms and then see that they are still important. My visiting teacher said that she found herself often telling the older sibling that she couldn't play with them or help them because she needed to tend to the baby. She found it helpful during times when the baby was happy and she could put her down to say to the baby in front of the older sibling, "No baby, I can't help you right now. I need to play with your brother." That way the older sibling doesn't always hear "no" just to them, it goes to both children. I feel like Benton will respond to this one.
Another person mentioned bringing a gift for the older sibling when you come home from the hospital. Something like a book about having a baby brother and a small toy. Something to make them feel special. The last piece of advice someone mentioned (it applies to anyone having a baby), and I don't know why I didn't think of it before, was to buy paper plates and cups for the first week or so. Duh, that would be awesome! Less dishes to worry about.
So now I wanted to see if any of you had any advice you might want to offer. I know that many of you have two or more children and have been through this transition before. I do want to say though that this is not something I am really concerned about. In fact I lean more towards thinking that this is life now and Benton will have to get over it rather than worrying about his feelings every second. It sounds kind of harsh but really I think that being too concerned about it will only make it worse for him. Though I do feel that there are some simple things that you can do to make the transition easier for everyone involved and they are worth trying. So if you have anything to share, anything at all please do. Thanks in advance.